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What Are We Encouraging Godly or Worldly Attitudes and Style of Living!!

Our Girls at Christmas and Me

I have had a lot of eye opening, mind-boggling sights to behold in this life of mine. I used to know more when I was younger than I do now.  Well, I probably know more after some hair-raising heart breaking scenes of those that seem to rather feed on worldly dress, talk and ideas.

Young men with a desire to work for the Lord, a woman in your life can either help make you or break you. What can you do for God if your wife or girlfriend is sowing discord, undermining ministry and your leadership, whether it is Pastor or Sunday School Teacher or Youth Leader? If she will not respect you and have a tender, clean, honest, calm, non trouble making way, you are going NO where good, in the work of the Lord.

In Church work I have had hope for and loved some young women that acted like they wanted to be a Preachers wife. When I would see how they would stand against their Pastor if he changed a plan in the church or made a standard I knew unless there was a drastic change of heart she was pursuing ministry without a tender pliable teachable spirit. No way does that end up good.  It was so major to her and her feelings would be so ugly and disrespectful I would feel no hope of her being used of the Lord.

Erica our niece and Uncle Marty

The enemy is quick to fill the tender spot that we have in our heart that is teachable and easy to entreat for the work of the Lord. He gets his big foot in the door of our heart and if We Allow he will feed us with resentment, sarcasm, doubts, and he knows if we are materialistic and full of jealousy and fears he can have his way and destroy us and who we deal with.

Your sour, unfaithful, mean spirited attitude is not good material for God to use. I ask the Lord to give me a sweet strong spirit one that can calm and be calmed when things seem to not go my way.  I want to say God will be there with you.   Just be his child and lean on God and be sweet and easy to entreat. We go through some things and without being devastated because God protects us and keeps our hearts and mind tender towards people and him. You cannot be undermining leadership and living on the fringes never really backing the standards and living them with all your heart and be used of God for his kingdom in a great way.

You want to be respected and cherished then live with the Fruits of the Spirit working in your life. Read them, seek after them it will bring a wonderful goal to your life of Godliness, strength and peace. If you are hungry for friendship and a fun loving atmosphere in your home let the Fruits of the Spirit give you a wonderful start.

You don’t have to be a weak, sad, beat down Christian when you have the Fruits of the Spirit working in your life. It is a contagious word of God that lets the World know you are his child and have something in your life that they want. Your going to go through some stuff called for and uncalled for but with the Ten Commandments and Fruits of the Spirit working you are granting yourself and others around you a much more wonderful life and having the Holy Ghost makes the difference.

If I campaign for anything I sure don’t want it to be for anything that would lead myself or anyone else away from the Church and God or what standards that represent a clean Godly life style.

I hope we never forget that it is dangerous to have a bad attitude and talk against ANY man of God for any reason. You can be sly and put seeds of rebellion in others and if they are weak YOU helped that seed to grow. Sooner than you realize you will see things connected to your life take on the worldly airs instead of the tender sweet Godly way of life.  I made up my mind a long time ago, no matter where I land to live I will cause no grief, strife or make the mistake of sowing discord among the saints. I am a Preachers wife and been a Pastor’s wife, but I never get the right to cause church trouble. I am going to bake cakes, make good meals, and try to encourage everyone I can to love serving Jesus. I Love it and I Love being blessed of the Lord and I Love the Contentment that comes from living the way Jesus wants me to Live.

We have lots of fun!!

I just never feel like I need to let my own will and opinion be spilled out. If I am wrong I will suffer and others will suffer. I can have peace in the midst of a storm. The Lord is in Control if I let him be. If I take the wheel I will miss a turn in the road and he will allow me to miss the turn if I insist. He is God but as we say to our Children You made that Choice. Sorry it didn’t work out.

Rules, Guidelines, Dedications, Consecrations, These Are Not Problems They Are A Blessing!!

Rules, Guidelines, Dedications, Consecrations, These Are Not Problems They Are A Blessing!!

For every successful close Family there have been Rules to follow, For every successful Business there are rules to keep it successful, For a loving Marriage there are Rules and if you break them sooner or later it will fail, Rules are a safety for things to go smooth and easier. Why do we campaign against rules. You have to teach your children rules matter, that helps them to be enjoyed more by not just you but others too. God has rules because some of us would go too far out otherwise in everything we do.

The First thoughts I had on Rules, Guidelines, Dedications, and Consecrations I allowed them to be read. Since then I have noticed what happens to us and those we love when Rules are challenged and defied, and with that we lose our dedications, and Consecrations and that will begin our Spiraling down and away from all that brings us peace, Joy, and keeps us safe Spiritually. Too soon once you start agreeing with unrighteous thinking, and you partake of all you have been warned to leave alone, you are uncomfortable with your Godly family and with those that have even raised you and nurtured you to where you are today.

The Blind lead the Blind and they all will fall in the ditch. You become Blind and cannot see danger in breaking consecrations, standards of living, standards that keep you tender and pure, you so quickly lose your brakes at trying whatever you have been taught not too. Then you begin to only have pleasure for a season. Sin is sneaky and if you keep love and respect in your heart for your Men of God and for Good Clean Living it is very fortunate because God can still talk to you and lead you back to be renewed in him.

I don’t dread Rules they were a fence to keep evil mistakes from happening to me and to keep me protected from the snare of the devil. When you defy good solid teaching you don’t learn how to dress better or look better, or make good choices for yourself you knew to do good but didn’t do it and there are consequences to everything you do Good and Bad.

If you take your life out of the hands of God then you will reap how life is when you don’t obey or live like Jesus provided for you to live. He is a GOOD GOD and He loves his children and will help us through difficult times, through bad choices, through wrong spirits he can change us and heal our backsliding but only if we get close to him and cry out to him and then follow his voice and the fruits of the spirit will show if we do. Love, Joy, Peace, Long suffering, Gentleness, Goodness, Meekness, Faith and Temperance. It covers all areas of our life to get us safe, to help us live the best, and to get us ready for his Coming in a twinkling of an eye.

No we are not missing anything GOOD for us, we are missing a Life without the approval of God and we are missing Hell and going to be with the Lord. Small things start us on the road breaking down guidelines and rules that would save us from losing our souls and giving us an unteachable Spirit willing to defy our Pastors, Godly parents and make us rather be with those that could not care less what God’s Word says. Yes I Love the Hand of God in my Life and it has made the Ballestero Family Blessed NO MATTER What we Go through it always is better with God.

He Knows How to Smooth Bumpy Roads of Life and Make Us Over Anew and We will Suffer Hardships we did or did not ask for, because that is Life. The Jesus I Serve Loves Through it All and can Change Us for The Better as Long as We keep Holding His Hand and Listen to His Voice. The World has No Hold that He cannot Break If We want him. He Is Working For Our Good if WE ALLOW HIM no matter if the process hurts he will heal and revive and refresh like New. The Answer is Only If You Allow him too you gotta want him more than Sin.

The Responsibility of the Preacher’s Wife To Her Husband, Her Children and Her Home!!

APOSTOLIC SHEPHERDS’ CAMP

Michigan District 1981

 THE RESPONSIBILITY OF THE PREACHER’S WIFE TO HER HUSBAND, HER CHILDREN AND HER HOME.

 HUSBAND;

Shares in his calling

A. Affects the way she lives, how and where.

B. How much money she will have.

C. What she thinks about a great deal of the time.

D. What she and her husband will talk of most frequently.

E. How she is looked on in the Community.

 Attitude:

A. Supportive–Prov. 14:1 says, “Every wise woman buildeth her house; but the foolish, plucketh it down with her hands.”

B Not Competitive

She works with her husband and not against him.She does not try to appear more intelligent or competent than her husband.

C. She is interested in Saving Souls and every phase of her minister husband’s ministry.

 Loyal

A. A loyal wife does not discuss her husband’s faults with others.

B. She does not contradict her husband in public. If the matter is of utmost importance, she should very courteously tell him or draw him aside.

C. She keeps her private life Private.

 Romantic

A. Ecclesiastes 9:9 says, “Live Joyfully with the wife whom thou Lovest all the days of the Life of thy vanity, which he has given thee under the sun, all the days of vanity, for that is thy portion in this life, and in thy labour which thou takest under the sun.

B. Marriage should not be just a working partnership but should have Romance in it too.

C. Times of togetherness in things like lunches, where talk is of your private feelings and not church problems. Husband should be attentive to wife’s need in her household problems. Much Resentment and lack of romance stems from the Man’s lack of concern in the things that are of great importance to the

D. Wife should respond with tenderness and pleasure to compliments given by husband and she will be the recipient of many throughout the marriage.

E. Learn to compliment your husband on attributes you appreciate in him.

Don’t let little kindnesses go unnoticed.

F. Build him up sincerely.

G. Try to say the Right Thing at the Right Time.

Prov. 25:11 Says “A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in pictures of silver.”

 CHILDREN

 Love

A.  A Child should be Wanted.

B.  A child is not born loving you. You teach him to love you by showing your love to him. He responds to your treatment.

C.  A child must have physical expression of love. He needs to be held and kissed. An older child needs to feel your love expressed by an embrace.

D. Don’t try to make a little one grow up too fast by taking his bottle away too early or saying that he is a big boy or big girl now and doesn’t need it. Don’t let other people pressure you in matters pertaining to your child. Usually a child will throw the bottle away when he is through with it.

When there is a new baby, a little child will want to play like he is a baby too. Don’t shame him but play along with him let him choose baby food even take a bottle. He will soon get tired of it and want to resume the stage of maturity he has reached.

 Security

A. Mother and Dad’s relationship is the big factor in this. If Mother and Dad love each other their love reaches the child and he is not frightened of his place.

B. He feels the pleasure he is bringing them.

 Discipline

A. Teach him to be honest by your honesty in example.

B. Teach him respect for Authority, Yours, the Preachers, the Law, the Teachers at Sunday School and Public or Church School.

C. Don’t undermine fathers’ authority. Differences should be reasoned out of children’s’ hearing.

D. Correction should be just that. Don’t take your frustrations out on your children and call that correction. They know the difference.

 Time

A. One of the greatest gifts you can give a child is your time. You as mother cannot tend to church affairs and neglect your children. The Bible says in Prov. 29:15, “The rod and reproof give wisdom, BUT A CHILD LEFT TO HIMSELF BRINGETH HIS MOTHER TO SHAME.”

 B.  You may not get to go every time you want to with  little ones but they should have first priority, Mothers presence in the home is vital. She cannot give them attention completely at all times, but the quantity of time is all-important.

QUALITY does not mean sitting down visiting them then taking off.  Quality is teaching them important truths, which you must have, time to teach.  You cannot make up for being gone hours and days and leaving them with sitters by coming in and out with gifts and fun times.

 C.  Listen to your child and give him privacy to ponder his thoughts. When he expresses himself you can guide his thinking.

 Good Memories

 A.  Set yourself to give your children good memories.  Don’t let them happen by accident.  Plan Birthday parties; plan activities for them to look forward to. Happy Children are usually Good Children.

Let them look forward to Christmas. Don’t emphasize material things but try to teach them to get pleasure from simple household objects.  Children have great imaginations and do not need many material things to play with.

 B.  Good food, good cooking odors in the home, relation visiting, playing with cousins.

 C.  Prayers from Dad and Mother when they are sick. Prayers and kisses for hurt fingers.

 D.  The knowledge that their parents are real Christians at home. That they believe the truth of the Bible and practice holiness.

 Home

 A.  Home is a gathering place for the Family. Here they are fed, sleep, taught what they need to know to prepare them for Life. They are taken care of and protected until they can care for themselves.

 B.  The Right Environment at home contributes more to a child’s Character and Personality than any thing else.

 C.  Children should not be ashamed of where they live. The home should be clean, with a neat yard and clean beds. They should not be afraid to bring Company into the house.

 D.  A Good home does not mean a new or pretentious home. A Good home has a Good Feeling in it. The Preacher’s wife has to entertain a lot and need not worry about beautiful furnishings if people can feel relaxed in her home.

 Laughter

 A.  The Home should have laughter and the children should feel that it is Great to Live for God.

 Hospitality

 A. Hospitality is a part of the life of a minister and his family.  Children should be taught to greet guest and welcome them to the home by their actions.

 B.  If possible a home should always have a Guest Room so the family does not have to shunt to other parts of the house to make room. A guest does not like to feel that he has taken someone ‘s room.

 Authority

 A.  Often a mother destroys the Authority of the Father in the home by making all the decisions concerning the children.

 B.  Father should be consulted on all-important decisions.

 C.  If Father is gone from the house and a need for correcting child comes up, she should take care of it and not leave it for Father when he comes home.  She undermines her own authority.  If Father is correcting, she should hold her peace. If any has a difference as to the need for the correction, it should be discussed in private.

 Meals

 A.  Children should be fed properly and at the same time. The dinner meal is usually the time when everyone is home. It should be a relaxed time with no battles fought, or church problems discussed.

 There should be no preachers children lost because home seemed to be a place of tenseness, work, worrying about those who made trouble in the church.  They must be made to see the excitement and privilege of being in a preacher’s home.

 YOU ALONE ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR THAT.

 Sis. June Starr

 

 

 

Happy 45th Anniversary to My Love!!

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Happy 45th Anniversary to My Love!!

Marcia J Ballestero to Martyn J Ballestero

Happy 45th Anniversary to The Love of My Life, For the Heart of My World.

The more our story unfolds, the happier I am that I chose you and you chose me to love and laugh and live with….

The home we have made together is my haven from life’s storms and I feel God there with us.

It has been a peaceful place to be with security and trust and lots of Love.

And at the heart of it all…there is you. Making even ordinary days extraordinary, reminding me how good life together can be.

The more our story unfolds, the more deeply I Love You.  Yes this is Happy 45th Anniversary and no unhappy feelings just a feeling of being so blessed that it was you God brought into my life at 18 years old. I was young, very young but I was so content and confident in my choice I made.

I Love You because I feel so much Love from you.

Our home  we made together has always been a haven from life’s storms and my quiet center.

1965

You have always made sure I knew you Loved me and I am glad that when we got married the courting did not stop. You have never been shy about saying elaborate loving words and compliments. I say Elaborate because I know many wonderful wives that wonder why they never hear those words. They got married and the fun courtship days were over. It has NEVER been that way with you.

As a Preacher you have been wonderful to hear. You are always so studied and interesting and can make someone understand and love how they hear it preached.  You have been a fair and loving father to our children and so generous with whatever we had to them.

You have NEVER been a tight wad type , you have never ask me one time what I spent of our money or what it was on. If there was money to spend you made sure I felt free to spend it.

You made fun times for the family and the list would be so long about the many times you have made my road so easy by being kind anyway no matter what was going on. We have a loving enjoyable by our God’s help and that you and I have been so much in Love with a purpose for our life. Our Purpose has been serving Jesus with our best we had and having a loving peaceful life together with as many Joys as we could fit in.

Thank You for all the years of nice conversation, thankful for your compliments which are so continuous no matter how homely I feel. You are a protector, of my feelings, our spiritual dedications, and just so many important parts of our life together even as a family. Thank You for making good times better. I Love You with all my heart.

Love Marcia

Once a Friend Always a Friend!!

Once a Friend Always a Friend

I hope the days of my title are not over. For me if I think I make a friend I may not call you regularly like you might want me to , but when I see you I want you to feel I still love our friendship. There are many reasons why you might not be able to keep a friendship and I know that.  There are friends that are embedded  into our hearts because of family, situations, association and then there is kindred spirits that bring you together. There are so many reasons that can start friendships and the Bible says a Friend Loveth at all Times.

I have friends that I enjoyed and loved so much because of our likeness in our families, our husbands in ministry, on and on situations. Some have come into my life and some have gone and when I see them again it seems they really could not care less if we talk again or smile together again. I don’t take that lightly it brings a touch of grief to my heart but I realize somehow there has been a change that I did not want but I can only keep my own spirit tender and I really just can only go as far as I am allowed to go in renewing our friendship again.  With this situation I want to always not respond in a rude unkind way a gesture their way is all I should do.  If the gesture is not accepted then I have done all I can do and no bitterness or unkind talk will repair our misunderstood friendship.

A lot is left up to me as to how things get repaired or become easier for me to even handle. I know in my own heart if the problem of the separation is my fault. Even in a marriage if you are rude and unkind or you have made rash statements and mistreated your companion or children a simple I am sorry I did you wrong is the quickest healer if you follow it through with more patience and tenderness which signals the other person you really meant what you said. Some people want to just smooth over rudeness with a smile or a gift without saying the wonderful healing words of I AM SORRY!! Why are those words so hard even you did not start the stress you probably lost the fruits of the spirit in the middle of the problem and now you need to repent face to face , eye to eye with you wife, husband , child or friend.  Those three words smooth the road better than any gift or whitewash technique you can try!!

Friends can make mistakes and hurt in a weak moment. One that does it constantly might not be considered a close friend. Some folks have a hard time keeping friends because they offend and are offended without restraints often. They disregard the Fruits of the Spirit and are selfish, and are possessive, maybe they somehow can’t handle more than one friend at a time because they are jealous and have a problem with sharing and caring through it all.  Some people are always so needy that you have a full time job when you have a friendship with them. They  are takers but have a hard time giving. When they are sick  or have a problem they expect you to be there, but if you have one and they know it they aren’t there for you and they just turn their head.  In My Lifetime I have learned and heard it said you have maybe three or four close friends. You have many friends maybe but then there are those that seem to stick close through thick and thin, through disappointments and sorrow and disillusionment they will hang in there.

Growing up I remember noticing that when some people had a clan of friends that they did things with and that seemed to be their main circle our family seemed to not have any certain folks other than family that we went on trips with or constantly fellow shipped.  I grew up feeling like I had to be able to live for God without having any certain friends or fellowship. I was pledged to doing the right thing to the best of my ability with help If I needed it and with God and family at my side.  I always thank God for Family and Friends they are a treasure in a world that can be cold and uncaring. If I want them to be there for me then I am there for them when I am needed. Life seems to give you back what you give out. If you are grouchy and stingy then you will reap very little tenderness or returns of generosity. Some people are so afraid that they will be taken advantage of if they are givers of their time and love and money. In all things you can control giving if needed, but if you aren’t careful you have little control over stinginess and selfishness.

I want to keep my heart and life tender and yet strong in the faith in what I know is right for me to keep close to God. Friendships are so important I want to be easily intreated as a family member and friend or saint of God.  I want to always feel like I am a Friend of God and if I am a Friend of God I will have a way that will bring Friends into my life to encourage and care about.  Friends are so necessary in marriage if you are not friends you sure got yourself in a fix for having a contented , caring, fun homelife. Why are people so afraid to marry a good friend,  and why do people cease to be friends when they get married?  I have heard a q uote , “Only a Friend Will Tell You” , some married people cannot even discuss fairly easy subjects let alone something that really needs to be talked about. They are not good enough friends maybe because the wife cannot trust the husband in money because he is careless as to taking good care of the family to the best of his ability. Just spends Crazy and she gets nothing back for her efforts as far as cash but he can spend what and whenever he decides. That can be vice versa, but the Bible does say for the Man to take care of his family or he is the same as an Infidel. Now days the men expect the woman to share in the outside job.  The roles have switched a bit. There may be a need but we need to remember that when you are friends in a marriage there is much more companionship and less anger and jealousy through it all. Never do we have physical violence or mental beat downs to settle our differences. Surely being a person that loves God and has the Fruits of the Spirit working can get through life showing they are friends and Trust the Lord and are gentle and trusting companions.

If I have ever felt like a friend I hope I can still be trusted and loved as a friend till Jesus comes with his help I am sure I can do that if you want me as a friend.

Happy Fathers Day To a Wonderful Father

Happy Fathers Day Honey

I am one of those girls that dreamed to getting married by 18 years old and having a dozen children. I did just that almost except the number of children ended up being five instead of a dozen.

Maybe that was a girls mind I had but, I was so blessed with finding the man of my dreams. He has been strong and tender all at the same time. We had four boys, Anthony, Bryan, MartynII, Andrew and one daughter, Marisa Hartzell.  The Ballestero name will go on in the Pentecostal Way.

I just have to say, Honey, You have been a strength of Stability Spiritually, strength because of the honorable way you have conducted yourself as a husband, father, Pastor, and now Evangelist, Son, Brother, Uncle. Thank you for always being so generous to our children and me with your time, love, patients, and you have helped guide the children to stay true to Jesus, his standards of living and conduct, and keep much love through it all.

I am the blessed one. This week I went to the hospital for a stone removal and now four days later I am home. I ended up with a Ventilator, and I thank the Lord you were right there.  I had the best nurse in my room all those long hours as I looked at the ceiling unable to talk. I was tied to the bed so I wouldn’t wake up and pull the ventilator out by mistake.  It felt like a brush with death unable to speak or move but somehow I relaxed and even though there was fear and tears when I could not speak I felt calm and loved.  I want to thank You for the kind of husband, and Daddy you have been. You show love and you are a builder of lives. When kids have difficulty and you could have felt angry and disturbed you have not been harsh only you had a way of tenderly reaching and holding and doing all you could to help things get better. It is no wonder you are so loved by your kids.  Thank You for being stable, sweet, loving and kind everyone doesn’t have the nice deals we have been blessed with. I Love You

What Are We Encouraging Godly or Worldly Attitudes and Style of Living!!

Our Girls at Christmas and Me

I have had a lot of eye opening, mind-boggling sights to behold in this life of mine. I used to know more when I was younger than I do now.  Well, I probably know more after some hair-raising heart breaking scenes of those that seem to rather feed on worldly dress, talk and ideas.

Young men with a desire to work for the Lord, a woman in your life can either help make you or break you. What can you do for God if your wife or girlfriend is sowing discord, undermining ministry and your leadership, whether it is Pastor or Sunday School Teacher or Youth Leader? If she will not respect you and have a tender, clean, honest, calm, non trouble making way, you are going NO where good, in the work of the Lord.

In Church work I have had hope for and loved some young women that acted like they wanted to be a Preachers wife. When I would see how they would stand against their Pastor if he changed a plan in the church or made a standard I knew unless there was a drastic change of heart she was pursuing ministry without a tender pliable teachable spirit. No way does that end up good.  It was so major to her and her feelings would be so ugly and disrespectful I would feel no hope of her being used of the Lord.

Erica our niece and Uncle Marty

The enemy is quick to fill the tender spot that we have in our heart that is teachable and easy to entreat for the work of the Lord. He gets his big foot in the door of our heart and if We Allow he will feed us with resentment, sarcasm, doubts, and he knows if we are materialistic and full of jealousy and fears he can have his way and destroy us and who we deal with.

Your sour, unfaithful, mean spirited attitude is not good material for God to use. I ask the Lord to give me a sweet strong spirit one that can calm and be calmed when things seem to not go my way.  I want to say God will be there with you.   Just be his child and lean on God and be sweet and easy to entreat. We go through some things and without being devastated because God protects us and keeps our hearts and mind tender towards people and him. You cannot be undermining leadership and living on the fringes never really backing the standards and living them with all your heart and be used of God for his kingdom in a great way.

You want to be respected and cherished then live with the Fruits of the Spirit working in your life. Read them, seek after them it will bring a wonderful goal to your life of Godliness, strength and peace. If you are hungry for friendship and a fun loving atmosphere in your home let the Fruits of the Spirit give you a wonderful start.

You don’t have to be a weak, sad, beat down Christian when you have the Fruits of the Spirit working in your life. It is a contagious word of God that lets the World know you are his child and have something in your life that they want. Your going to go through some stuff called for and uncalled for but with the Ten Commandments and Fruits of the Spirit working you are granting yourself and others around you a much more wonderful life and having the Holy Ghost makes the difference.

If I campaign for anything I sure don’t want it to be for anything that would lead myself or anyone else away from the Church and God or what standards that represent a clean Godly life style.

I hope we never forget that it is dangerous to have a bad attitude and talk against ANY man of God for any reason. You can be sly and put seeds of rebellion in others and if they are weak YOU helped that seed to grow. Sooner than you realize you will see things connected to your life take on the worldly airs instead of the tender sweet Godly way of life.  I made up my mind a long time ago, no matter where I land to live I will cause no grief, strife or make the mistake of sowing discord among the saints. I am a Preachers wife and been a Pastor’s wife, but I never get the right to cause church trouble. I am going to bake cakes, make good meals, and try to encourage everyone I can to love serving Jesus. I Love it and I Love being blessed of the Lord and I Love the Contentment that comes from living the way Jesus wants me to Live.

We have lots of fun!!

I just never feel like I need to let my own will and opinion be spilled out. If I am wrong I will suffer and others will suffer. I can have peace in the midst of a storm. The Lord is in Control if I let him be. If I take the wheel I will miss a turn in the road and he will allow me to miss the turn if I insist. He is God but as we say to our Children You made that Choice. Sorry it didn’t work out.

Are We Teaching Our Children to be Strong or Weak?

Are We Teaching Our Children To Be Strong or Weak?

Christyana and Kalyx my grand girls!!

I am really disturbed by the immodesty with our young ladies. Well, what is more disturbing is the mature ladies seem to forget that a low neckline reveals more and more.  I feel so uncomfortable with the trend of such low necklines that  well I feel embarrassed to say what I see. If a man did that it would be indecent exposure.   Oh, was that kind of crude? Well, I am usually not crude that is not my pattern I am tender with those that don’t know better. We know better that is who I am worried about and we allow it.

I wish I could say this nicely but what I see in so many of our sweet Pentecostal ladies is the ignoring of what others have to see. I have turned my head to talk to many a lady I have watched them go to the platform and I have to look at their whole knee and Lord spare us all if they bend over to pick up something or step on the risers for choir. I see nice young Christian men visiting with nice young Christian ladies that surely they see a way too much. What would a young preacher or good young man want to show interest in a girl that is loose talking and immodest at any area of her being. How dangerous is that?

Andy and Me a few Christmas's ago

I am wondering how short the sleeves are going to get too. They are barely cap sleeves and really as soon as they can get away with no sleeve at all and a real low revealing neckline well they will do it and it won’t be long. Moms are so afraid of confronting their daughters anymore that if dad doesn’t say something they are not going to go to the trouble of saying you are not dressing that way. What is your reason to dress that way anyway? Why ladies are you skirts sooo tight they look like you are poured into them. They cannot be comfortable and then you sit and also pull and tug at your top and your hem and never really remedy anything.

So now to make everyone comfortable and happy we can have revealingly low tops and revealingly short straight skirts so tight that it can’t be comfortable.

I say Why? Why? Who is impressed with that and who are we trying to impress? Does your husband like it? Not usually Does your boyfriend like it? Maybe and how dangerous is that. Does the Pastor feel comfortable for you to help with your example other young girls to dress like you.

It seems so many mommas can’t say no to their daughters wearing shorts, slacks, halter tops and if they don’t want to offend the church folks they will just have to wear it to school or to a school dance. That way they won’t offend church folks. Be sure your sins will find you out. All youth will have a problem to face for a space of time but if mom and dad won’t say no you are not going to dress immodest in school where else can they learn strength like they can and it is nothing to pity them about. When they start to play with drugs and drink and smoke can you not fight back about that and just say no. I love you too much.

I may seem like I am not that sweet lady that you love so much. Oh yes I am. I love deeply. I have had to stand up against the enemy. The devil has put thoughts in my head that maybe you might turn your daughter off if you stand against the way she wants to dress. And somehow a still small voice gently said just say,”Honey , I am so scared for you to dress that way or date that young man that doesn’t know Jesus, or whatever was going to bring danger to separate her from the desire to serve the Lord.

Marisa and Me

It doesn’t take long for your teenager or pre-teenager to decide YES I get to do what I want and soon it is something else at school that is forbidden that becomes OK and then pretty soon you kid doesn’t worship, doesn’t want to go to youth night, doesn’t want to pray and feel no conviction.

Conviction is replaced with worldliness that they are now allowed to partake of. They will protect the ability to be Worldly then much more than to keep tender before the Lord and No more desire to be a part of the Youth Group it is Gone. Hopefully it will come back when they grow up. But don’t count on it.

I am back in my home town and I Love all Backsliders but they are so mixed up and full of doubt it isn’t the Hypocrites of the churches fault, It isn’t the unfriendly people of the church it is that one day they were allowed or allowed themselves to get started down a road of life that made them so distant from God that they only can vaguely remember how sweet it was growing up in a Godly home with Parents that loved going to church and bringing them to the best place on earth, God’s House.

Kim(Anthony's Wife and Mom B

Somehow I feel so protected and loved by Jesus . I remember how I was raised and our home had peace in it. There were many hectic times getting ready for church and some hectic times were just life, but miss church No we did not. We were treated with tenderness and got disciplined in a non abusive way. Thank God for Parents that did not give us a chance to feel unloved or like life was so terrible because we couldn’t wear makeup, jewelry, pants, shorts, cut our hair, wear evening gowns without sleeves we could do things that were good for us and there is plenty of good substitutes to put in the place of things that will forever maybe damage and draw away from God the souls of our girls and boys.

I feel like I was saved from a Prepaid ticket to a Devils Hell where the worm does not die and there is no breaks from that horrible place. Heaven sounds so good to me. I am afraid to take the chance that perhaps I will turn back to God. No He is the best thing that ever happens to anyone.

So if you say daughter you cannot wear shorts, slacks, halter tops immodest apparel, lipstick, No you cannot cut your hair. No you cannot go to the School Prom and party with drinking kids after wards. No you cannot miss church for a movie. No you cannot go to your boyfriends’ home without adults around. No you cannot break the rules and guidelines of the church. So you think you cannot say no. You can say no when you want to. You can be strong about what you decide to .

Marisa and Uncle David Trammell and Aunt Rebecca

Our Family has had a rough road too, but something made us Love yet fight for our kids to be not so involved with the World that they decided they would rather do that. The Devils job is to see who will just give in and then he has one more on his team. Love, Tenderness and standing strong and true to God and following our wonderful leadership will keep our Families Safe and we will have less losses.

Recipe of Marcia’s Gumbo

Marcia’s Gumbo Recipe

Whole Chicken or  2 lb or more of Frozen chicken breast tenders

Boiled in seasoned water with some chicken boulion and some Creole Louisiana seasoning of Tony Chachere’s then remove chicken and either debone or cut up tenders and set aside.

1 lb Eckrich Skinless Smoked Sausage

Sliced in one inch pieces or however you want to slice it.

1 chopped bell pepper

2 stalks of chopped celery

1 box of frozen sliced okra

1 bunch of green onion diced

1 stick of margarine or olive oil in skillet for sauté of vegetables and  cut up sausage.

White or brown rice

Rice after cooked is not included in pot of Gumbo.

We do rice separate. When ready to eat we put some rice in the bowl then pour the gumbo over the top and eat.

Now when you take the chicken out to debone and cut than in the large pot of soup broth you have you add your Roux and stir until mixed and no clumps unmixed with broth.

Roux can be made or bought and mixed in. I will tell you how to make that.

Roux

This is the stuff that makes it Gumbo to me. You can either buy it in Louisiana, Texas area it can come in the Jar ready made and a half jar or less added to your Broth will give it a dark soup base or there is a Powdered Roux by Zatarines that you add to soup base.

To make it homemade use Olive Oil or margarine a stick in skillet put ½ cup or more of flour and stir constantly and let it brown to a dark or golden brown. Add this to broth carefully so you don’t splatter and get burnt.

Now add sautéed vegetables, chicken and sausage to broth and let cook on low to medium heat .  Ready to eat.

Optional boil eggs a egg for each person or more. Than peel the eggs and save a couple for potatoe salad. Put the rest in the pot of gumbo. When folks get gumbo they can get a egg in their bowl of gumbo and eat it and potatoe salad along with gumbo.

My family likes it this way. You will get a taste how you like it as you go.

Potatoe Salad I boil chopped potatoes until firm but done. Then I drain and hand mash a little added a dab of onion, dab of dill relish, chopped boiled egg , a dab of Tony seasoning, and light mayonnaise and mix. Fix your bowl of Gumbo than put a spoon of potatoe salad at the side of the bowl also try a boiled egg along with that. Keep Tony Chachere’s on the table we eat it with everything.

I season what I cook but I try to never over season and it folks want it more heavily seasoned they can do it themselves. Same with File that folks add to Gumbo. I rarely add that but it is on the table for whoever wants it.

Now I know this seems lengthy but I have looked at Recipes and they list it but the way I said do it in long terms becomes easy but I didn’t want to be so brief and you be full of questions and not get the real gumbo taste.

In Gumbo most ingredients can be optional except Roux, Chicken and Sausage. If you don’t want celery or Okra fine but the rest are needed for it to be gumbo. This is the way we like it .

Roux can be bought either dry or jar by Savoy or Zatariens brand.  Or make your own when you make the Gumbo and you may like that better. Check online for those brands too.  Good Luck.

One Generation Will Commend Your Works to Another

Me and some of my wonderful grands!!

One Generation will commend your works to another.  They will tell of your mighty acts.

My memories of growing up in a Pastors Home were very warm to me.  I realized how peaceful and exciting our home was at a young age.  Being the oldest I got to help out with four younger sisters.

Mom shared with us her heritage and how her daddy was won to the Lord.   That made a huge impact on my thinking and believing of how real God was.   And how Daddy’s family came to the Lord.

I remember hearing those stories and how important it was to hear them even as a child I would feel faith build in me for others to come to the Lord.

When you had Jesus in your life that was the greatest life.  How sad we would feel for those that turned away or rejected God.

If it is good for you we can do it.  If not we are blessed that God protects us by us not being a part of something not good.   Passing on this from Generation to Generation is a Godly skill I will forever be grateful for.

Me, Jeron and Kalyx

Church was the center of our lives.   It was not a painful, unhappy experience for our family.  There were many times situations had to be handled but the cushion of love and believing in the power of the Holy Ghost and what Miracles that God can do was instilled in our minds.

Nothing Good is impossible with God.

I have five children now of which some are here today.  God has blessed us for our children to marry others that are strong in the Faith.  We now have 12 Grandchildren 14 yrs old and younger.  Nine are baptized and have received the Holy Ghost.

We know in life that raising a family in this world we need to lean on God.  We want our children to keep loving this message and then our grandchildren and on and on.

We have had a Mother that made our home a haven.   And although she helped so many others she never neglected us.  She was a mom that was there and she was loving, Godly, and unwavering in pleasing the Lord.

I want to publicly thank my Mother and call her blessed.

Three of our sons, Anthony,R, Bryan , Marty Joe , L

For being a Godly roll model.    In my eyes she was the Perfect Mother.    She guided me in my life by not only her words but her Example.   She was consistent.   We could count on her reaction to be right and that put stability in our lives.  She was a strong Pastor’s wife, a Loving Mother and a wonderful wife to our dad.

We learned to respect our dad also. We got to know that he was the main man in our world until we married. Mom taught us to be thankful because our dad worked hard everyday to support us and provide comfortable living for us.  He was so genuine in loving this one God message of living a clean Godly life separated from the world style. We were taught to still look pretty and feel clean inside and have a good time doing it.

We had fun at home and hard times came and went and we were still going on living the easy way for the Lord and under the protection of our parents. They looked out for us and yet let us be individuals and have friends . Mom knew friends mean so much to kids they really don’t do well when they feel they can have no friends. Mom taught us how to be a friend to many too. There are favorites but I wasn’t encouraged to get stuck on having one friend at a time and controlling them or letting them control me. We had fun and learned manners.

Jeremy, Hayley,Jeron, Marty

My sisters and I had sibling rivalry but and we probably hit a few times and said some harsh words , but mom allowed it to happen but not go too far. She would say that someday you will be so thankful for each other and you will love being together. I am so glad she handled us in that manner. She did not turn on any one child unless she really knew who was causing the problem.

She was a soother and I was the oldest and she respected my wishes to not have intrusion into my stuff and have to feel angry that she would not protect me from the frustration of being older and having a little privacy when I seemed to need it.

How I was raised worked so well for my happiness and so it was a pattern for my raising of my own. I was taught that certain privileges were given with age as you grew. I had to try my own wings and I always felt like they would forgive me if I made a mistake like Jesus would. I felt like it wasn’t always easy to grow up and understand every thing and they didn’t put more on me than I could bear or stand. It was a livable non-bitter way of life.

Andy our youngest and Dad

I did not have to anger and seethe inside my mind at mom and dad they cared about whether I felt well . Even when I had to have guidance it was not cruel over bearing. There fore when their grandchildren came along they did not have to see or feel heartache at how their precious grandchildren were raised. There was a bit of joy and peace that I would do as good as I could and would love and cherish my children.

Our Family 2010 All are filled with the Holy Ghost except the three youngest.